The phrase is so trite, really…right…”anything is possible” we tell our kids, “the sky is the limit” we say! “You can move mountains!!”
But what is that little voice inside us that says one thing, “I can do this!” but then quickly says..”next year..tomorrow..when I have more time..when I have more money..” It is always there…the nagging voice that truly keeps us from doing it. It makes it safe not to..because what if we tried? and…and…it didn’t WORK?! well, then we would know that we could not. And we shouldn’t have tried. We just knew we shouldn’t have tried. Now we are just disappointed.
But what if it DID work? would we stretch out bigger? would our grasp become longer, arms wider? I think so - the further you reach..you are bound to grab on to something sometime..and like monkey bars..you reach one…it begets another grab..and another and another….
So, how do we begin to think like this? I realized the other day, trying to instill this in my children, that it is a PROCESS. you can’t just say, “you can do anything!” you have to teach children (and its a continual journey for ourselves as well) that they can do anything. More importantly, you have to SHOW them that you do it. And it works.
My 7 year old..he is the KING of seeing the flip (some might call it the “down”) side..the side that says..well, maybe not..maybe I can’t..etc…etc. So we sat down..we made a collage of all the words that we love..images that are powerful, images that made us happy (white water rafting, fishing, riding an ATV, etc). Oh, what a great mom I am, I think - oh, look at the fabulous message I am sending. Ever since then, it begins..”Mom, you say you can do anything..but you can’t eat a pontoon boat”…”Hey Mom, you can’t swallow an entire lake”. And as ridiculous as these statements are :) he is right. And he is already beginning that thinking…the thinking that says, “yes…but…” instead of embracing greatness..instead of focusing on the glass half full (in all my wisdom I tried that one with him, too..showing him two equal glasses…blah, blah, blah) he chooses to discount me. Because to embrace all that he COULD do..well that is the scariest thing of all. Much scarier than trying to eat a pontoon boat.
So, how do we instill this?? How do we start out our most treasured little people with a feeling of self-empowerment? a sense of being unstoppable?
We live. Live fully. Everyday. And we show what it is like to open your mind and attach to nothing - to be creative. To talk in language that is positive, uplifting and void of negativity, jealously and petty gossip. One day at a time..we have to consider these little sponges are watching..waiting…they want to see..”she says it, but does she DO it??” Realizing that there is more than ourselves at work in the universe is scary..and to realize that there is a plan for us that is waiting - if we are receptive is equally daunting if you thing that that plan is “too big”.
But, just when I think I may have to start disassembling a boat and eating it a little each day…that same 7 year old turns to me yesterday and says, “mom, I think I will be a scientist” and I said, “oh, that sounds exciting, what kind of scientist?” and he replies, “I don’t know, the exploring kind…I am going to search for Bigfoot…I am going to make it up…you and dad made up your jobs…I know I can do that, too”
Now, maybe we are gettin’ somewhere…